Recently I was talking with a colleague who is a supervisor, mother, wife, and incredibly giving person. She had been sick for two weeks and hadn’t been to a doctor. I reminded her, “Put on your oxygen mask first,” which is the instruction given by flight attendants to parents. I then laughed that I had just cancelled my own check-up in order to take the cat to the veterinarian for a routine appointment! Bad example, right?
Parents, grandparents, and even siblings put others’ needs first. Resiliency and self-care involve identifying and using supports to deal with challenges. Are you minimizing basic self-care, such as sleep, healthy eating, exercise, and relationships? For siblings, are they leaving things unsaid, when they want to talk with you?
The reality is that you are absolutely doing all you can do, and self-care may seem to be a luxury or completely unrealistic. Here are some ideas:
- Give yourself grace to understand you are doing your best.
- Ask for help when you can.
- Make small changes to take care of yourself.